What if we release our grip on “normal”?

What if we release our grip on “normal”?

Perhaps it is time to let go of our attachment to “normal.” 


I have been clinging to normal, how about you? I keep looking ahead, dreaming about when things go back to normal. We’ll gather for the family reunion in July. We’ll attend a family wedding in September. We’ll take our planned trip to Scotland. We’ll go to baseball games, outdoor concerts, and the beach. 


But maybe it’s time for me to let go of normal.



Letting go of our attachments is a scary thing to do. If I let go of my attachment to normal, for example, I’m afraid I’ll go into a free-fall.

What am I left with, if I don’t have “normal”?

I don’t want to let go of normal. I want everything to go back to the way it was before: the gym, my church, my favorite restaurants. My job teaching yoga, my choir rehearsals, my hang-outs with friends.

I don’t like change. Does anyone? I have yet to meet anyone who claims that they love radical changes in their life. Most of us are happy with our routines, thank you very much.

However… one thing I do know is that as soon as we let go of our attachments, new possibilities open up.

It’s kind of like that old saying: If God closes a door, somewhere he opens a window.

It also reminds me of Ganesh, the elephant god. Ganesh is the remover of obstacles and the revealer of possibilities.

I’m trying to let go of my attachment to normal. I’ve been clinging to it like I’m drowning.

But I’m not going to drown, and neither will you.

If we release our grip on normal, it won’t go away — things won’t immediately be different. You may feel different, however.

It is the same when we release our attachments to people. Those people don’t go away, they are still in our lives — but our relationship to them changes. Usually it eases.

Let’s think of our attachment to normal in that way.

“Normal” will still be around, as a concept, as maybe a possibility (who knows?). But our relationship to normal will change.

Once we stop clinging to it so tightly, other possibilities will appear. We will begin to notice other options. Better options.

We will become less self-focused. We will be more open to Karma yoga, the yoga of selfless action. Our focus turns outward instead of inward.

We will have space to make radical changes — good changes. Maybe a healthier lifestyle. More boundaries in relationships. More caring for our souls. Who knows, the possibilities are, as they say, endless.



A meditation for letting go of normal.

This meditation asks you to call on a higher power: God, angels, great spirit, the universe, or whatever name you are comfortable with. 


Sit tall, relax your body. Gently close your eyes. Begin to take some deep, slow breaths, in and out through the nose. 

Let the breath begin to soften the body and slow down the thoughts in your mind. 

Say to yourself, “My intention is to release my attachment to normal.” 

Imagine a circle of bright, sparkling light. You are surrounded by this circle of light. 

It is a circle of love, unconditional love. Breathe in beauty, release resistance, and fully receive this love. 

You are loved, from the top of your head down to your toes. 

Say to yourself, “I am fully supported and fully loved, and I release my attachment to the past and to what was normal.”  

Repeat this mantra, as many times as you like. 

Keep the visualization of being surrounded by a circle of unconditional love. 

Say to yourself, “Lord God, please assist me in releasing my hold on the past, and on what was “normal,” and opening myself to new possibilities.” 

Repeat this mantra as many times as you like. 

To finish, take in a deep breath and release it, and release the meditation. 



2 thoughts on “What if we release our grip on “normal”?”

  • I really enjoy reading your posts. Wanted you to know that you are being heard! I am finding that taking one day at a time is the best way to move through each day. I am not giving much thought to things months away. It’s beyond our control!

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